Once a student asked his teacher a question. “What is Love?” The teacher replied: “In order to answer that, go to the corn field and choose the biggest corn you find. But the rule is: Once you walk past, you cannot turn back to pick.” The student went out to the corn field to being his search. He saw one Big corn, but thought to himself that there would be bigger corn further down the field. By the time he finished more than half of the field, he realized he had missed the biggest corn, and he regretted. He returned to his teacher, empty-handed. The teacher said:” This is love.. you keep looking for a better one, but when later you realize, you have already missed the person..”
What is marriage then?” The student asked. The teacher said : “ Go to the corn field again and choose the biggest corn one back. But remember that the same rule applies.” The boy went through the corn field once more, careful not to make the same mistake. In the middle of the field,the boy picked a medium sized corn he felt satisfied with and brought it back to the teacher. The teacher said: “ This time when you bring back a corn, you look for one that is just nice and you have faith that this is the best one you can get, this is marriage.” Leave a comment [0]

♥ and me are on our way to our 3 months. (Cheers for myself for it's been ages since I last had a long term r/s. Kudos to ♥ for not giving up on me)

- I guess it's really hard to find a guy, who will chase after you whenever you walk away for when you are angry, or when you are just joking around and you can't win him in words, you walk away.I found him ;)

- It's even more difficult for a guy to hold up his promises, I'm very proud to say that, No, my ♥ dun drive (Reasons for feeling proud is, It's more difficult to held up to the promise if you dun drive, you got to make extra effort). Tho he dun drive, He held up all his promises. The small and big promises. I know I can depend on him, because he will never promise me the things he can't fulfill.

- I know this may sound common, but so far, When we are eating and there's un-shell prawns, he will just peel for me without me asking him (Yes, I know I can peel it myself, and I do not have a habit of being dependent on a man, but he have the ability to just let him do it) And oranges too, I do NOT like cut oranges, Told ♥, he told me he don't like cut orange too, so he promise to peel oranges for me in the future ;)

- Yes, I've always be a independent woman/girl/whatever-you-name, I never ever thought of depending on my boyfriend before. But his just the guy, that guy that let me know, it's a blessing to be pampered.

There's ton of it, I will update when I rmb it (It seem that whenever I wanna talk about something, I will forget partially of it)

Anyway, Came across my friend's FB photo album, Her description was this:

I want a guy who would move the hair away from my eyes and then kiss me, hold my hand tight at the mall and make all the girls jealous, sing to me at random moments, let me sleep on his chest and tummy, get mad at someone if they called me ugly or was mean to me, call me 3 times a day if he went away, let me gossip to him and would smile and agree with everything i said, throw stuffed animals at me when i acted dumb and then kiss me a million times, let me make fun at just to make me laugh, take me to the park and put his hands around my waist and give me big bear hugs all the time, tell his friends about me and smile when he did it, and we would make out in the pouring rain, never be afraid to say 'i love you' to me in front of his friends, and we would argue about silly things then make up, kiss me at midnight on new year and count stars with me, stay home on a friday night just to help me make dinner and watch movies together under the same blanket, make me laugh like no one else could, and most importantly, would never break my heart.

Above all, He manage to have it ALL except one or two (The one or two was totally impossible due to some reasons)

I'm really grateful for letting me to find him, know him, be together with him ;)

Anyway this is for him:
You know what I love most about us? I love how comfortable we are with each other. I love how we endlessly make fun of each other, but never take the teasing to heart. I absolutely adore how when I turn away from you when we’re fighting, you try to stay mad, then run after me. I love the look in your eyes when we kiss or how you stay up to watch me sleep. I love how I can call you anytime when I need someone and somehow you never cease to make me laugh. I love how you need me as much as i need you. And most of all, I love how you love me.


PS: ♥ if you are reading this (Probably I just send you my web), When are going to delicate your love for me online? ^^ Leave a comment [0]

Usually I do not read long stories online. But this one really interest me ;)


There was once a man who didn’t believe in love. This was an ordinary man just like you and me, but what made this man special was his way of thinking: He thought love doesn’t exist. Of course, he had a lot of experience trying to find love, and he observed the people around him. Much of his life had been spent searching for love, only to find that love didn’t exist.

Wherever this man went, he would tell people of his thoughts and opinions on love. This man was highly intelligent, and he was very convincing. What he said was the love is just like a drug; it makes you very high, but it creates a strong need. You can become highly addicted to love, but what happens when you don’t receive your daily doses of love? Just like a drug, you need your everyday doses.

He used to say that most relationships between lovers are just like a relationship between a drug addict and the one who provides the drugs. The one who has the biggest need is like the drug addict; the one who has a little need is like the provider. The one who has the little need is the one who controls the whole relationship. You can see this dynamic so clearly because usually in every relationship there is one who loves the most and the other who doesn’t love as much. You can see the way they manipulate each other, their actions and reactions, and they are just like the provider and the drug addict.

The drug addict, the one who has the biggest need, lives in constant fear that perhaps he will not be able to get the next dosage of love, or the drug. The drug addict thinks, “What am I going to do if she leaves me?” That fear makes the drug addict very possessive. “That’s mine!” The addict becomes jealous and demanding, because the fear of not having the next dosage. The provider can control and manipulate the one who needs the drug by giving more doses, fewer doses, or no doses at all. The one who has the biggest need completely surrenders and will whatever he can to avoid being abandoned.

The man went on explain to everyone why love doesn’t exist, and how what humans call ‘love’ is nothing but a fear relationship based on control. So many promises are made to each other: to live together forever, to love and respect each other, through the good times and the bad times but after marriage, you can see that none of these promises are kept.

What you find is a war of control to see who will manipulate whom. Who will be the provider? And who will have the addiction. You find that a few months later, the respect that they swear to have for each other is gone. You can see the resentment, the emotional poison, how they hurt each other, little by little, and it grows and grows, until they don’t know when the love stops. They stay together because they are afraid to be alone, afraid of the opinions and judgments of others, and also afraid of their judgments and opinions. But where is the love?

The man went on and on about all the reasons why he believed love doesn’t exist.

The one day this man was walking in a park, and there on a bench was a beautiful lady who was crying. When he saw her crying, felt curiosity. Sitting beside her, he asked if he could help her. He asked why she was crying. You can imagine his surprise when she told him she was crying because love doesn’t exist. “This is amazing—a woman who believes that love doesn’t exist!” Of course he wanted to know more about her.

He asked her why she felt that love doesn’t exist and she told him about her marriage and how she and her husband had both lost respect for each other. She told him about how they hurt each other, and at a certain point she discovered that she didn’t love him and that he didn’t love her either. ‘But the children need a father, and that was my excuse to stay and to do whatever I could to support him. Now the children are grown up and they have left. I no longer have any excuse to stay with him….There is no sense to look around for something that doesn’t exist. That is why I am crying.’

Understand her very well, he embraced her and said, you are right; love doesn’t exist. We look for love, we open our heart and we become vulnerable, just to find selfishness. That hurts us even if we don’t think we will be hurt. It doesn’t matter how many relationships we have; the same thing happens again and again. Why even search for love any longer?”

They were so much alike, and they became the best friends ever. It was a wonderful relationship. They respected each other, and they never put each other down. With every step they took together, they were happy. There was no envy or jealousy, there was no control, and there was no possessiveness. The relationship kept growing and growing. They loved to be together, because when they were together, they had a lot of fun. When they were not together, they missed each other.

One day when the man was out of town, he had the weirdest idea. He was thinking, ‘Hmm, maybe what I feel for her is love. But this is so different from what I have ever felt before. It’s not what the poets say it is, it’s not what religion says it is, because I am not responsible for her. I don’t take anything from her; I don’t have the need for her to take care of me; I don’t need to blame her for my difficulties or to take my dramas to her. We have the best time together; we enjoy each other. I respect the way she thinks, the way she feels. She doesn’t embarrass me; she doesn’t bother me at all. I don’t feel jealous when she’s with other people; I don’t feel envy when she is successful. Perhaps love does exist, but it’s not what everyone thinks love is.’

He could hardly wait to go back home and talk to her, to let her know about his weird idea. As soon as he started talking, she knew exactly what he was talking about. She felt the same way. They decided to become lovers and to live together, and it was amazing that things didn’t change. They still respected each other, they were still supportive of each other, and the love grew more and more.

The man’s heart was so full with all the love he felt that one night a great miracle happened. He was looking at the stars and he found the most beautiful one, and his love was so big that the star started coming down from the sky and soon that star was in his hands. Then a second miracle happened, and his soul merged with that star. He was intensely happy, and he could hardly wait to go to the woman and put that start in her hands to prove his love for her. As soon as he put the star in her hands, she felt a moment of doubt. This love was overwhelming, and in that moment, the star fell from her hands and broke in a million of little pieces.

Now there is an old man walking around the world swearing that love doesn’t exist. And there is a beautiful old woman at home waiting for a man, shedding a tear for a paradise that once she had in her hands, but for one moment of doubt, she let it go. This is the story about the man who didn’t believe in love.

Who made the mistake? Do you want to guess what went wrong? The mistake was on the man’s part in thinking he could give the woman his happiness. The star was his happiness, and his mistake was to put his happiness in her hands. Happiness never comes from outside of us. He was happy because of the love coming out of him; she was happy because of the love coming out of her. But as soon as he made her responsible for his happiness, she broke the star because she could not be responsible for his happiness.

No matter how much the woman loved him, she could never make him happy because she could never know what he had in his mind. She could never know what his expectations were, because she could not know his dreams.

If you take your happiness, and put it in someone’s hands, sooner or later, she is going to break it. If you give your happiness to someone else, she can always take it away. Then if happiness can only come from inside of you and is the result of your love, you are responsible for your own happiness. We can never make anyone responsible for our own happiness, but when we go to the church to get married, the first thing we do is exchange rings. We put our star in each other’s hands, expecting that she is going to make you happy, and you are going to make her happy. It doesn’t matter how much you love someone, you are never going to be what that person wants you to be.

That is the mistake most of us make right from the beginning. We base our happiness on our partner and it doesn’t work that way. We make all those promises that we cannot keep, and we set ourselves up to fail.

This is written by Don Miguel Ruiz. Its in his book, the mastery of love.

Great book. Leave a comment [0]

How you feel about yourself now (Justice)
You are feeling that things will go your way, you believe in fairness and justice in all things. If you are considering partnership issues, personal or professional, dealings will go well. Perhaps you are about to sign a contract or legal document, this will be beneficial to you. If someone has done wrong to you it will be put right and you will feel justice has been done.

What you most want at this moment (The Hierophant)
The cards suggest phin, that what you most want at this time is to have someone around you that you can trust and confide in, knowing that they won’t let you down. There are moral issues here, knowing right from wrong, and you may feel that you need some advice or wise counsel from a teacher, priest, parent or someone you have a lot of respect for, in order to help you make the right decision.

Your fears (The Lovers)
Ones heart is ruling ones head! You are so afraid of being hurt you are paralysed into non-action. To have or not to have? To stay or to go? Throw caution to the wind, great happiness awaits you if you can trust what you feel and ignore the fear and do it anyway.

What is going for you (The Moon)Despite the fear and bewilderment you feel, and the seeming difficulty of the path you have chosen, keep going - all will eventually turn out fine. The Moon is a good omen if you are in a clandestine affair; it also shows us how to be open to new and unexpected possibilities.

What is going against you (Death)
This is a time of anxiety, depression and fear with all the turmoil and distressing events happening in your life - it's time to show what you are made of. What has now come to an end leaves room for brand new beginnings in life, love and career. However radical events may be in your life, believe that life goes on and life is what you make of it.


Outcome (The Hanged Man)
You will in time know what decision to make about who or what must be given up. This is a time of passage from one phase of your life to another. It may be a difficult choice, and self-sacrifice is never easy, but if you look for truth and integrity and don’t be too materialistic or hang onto things or people for all the wrong reasons, everything will turn out in your favour.



Hmmmmmmmmmm Leave a comment [1]

Yayness!
I'm in love with someone.
My 大骗子 ;) Leave a comment [0]

He is the only one who can make me smile when I cry.
Only one that can keep me awake when I'm tired ;)

Ps: I dun need forever, Maybe one day it will be gone, at least I'm happy now. Leave a comment [0]